Set Your Boundaries Girl…
If you're anything like me speaking up for yourself is difficult to say the least. And having the disease to please is a problem that's hard to cure. Learning to set boundaries can be daunting but doable if you start with yourself first. How can you expect others to respect your boundaries if you're not honoring them yourself? How are you showing up for yourself? When you do for yourself everything else falls into place. And without clear boundaries, we risk compromising our own needs, values, and emotional health, which can lead to resentment, stress, and a sense of dishonor toward ourselves. Saying yes when you really want to say no, is not truly letting people know who you are authentically, and if that's the case how can you find those who will love you for who you are? Setting boundaries does not mean being rude or mean-spirited. Instead, it involves assertive communication, which is a healthy and respectful way to express our needs, concerns, and opinions. If someone has a negative reaction to your boundary it's a good indicator that you needed to set it. Take yourself seriously and hold people accountable.
Don't apologize for setting boundaries. Let people know what you need. Also, don't assume that people will just figure out if they have crossed your boundary. Clearly state what behavior or situation you find problematic and how it affects you. This helps others understand the impact of their actions and provides clarity for you and them. It's okay to feel guilty or fearful when setting boundaries, especially if you're used to prioritizing others' needs. Remember saying no is okay. Setting boundaries is only a problem for those who don't respect you. Boundaries are your responsibility. You decide what isn't allowed in your life. You deserve to be treated with kindness and consideration! And what you allow will continue. Having the courage to set boundaries is about loving yourself even when you disappoint others. Being consistent is key when it comes to maintaining boundaries. Hold firm to your limits don't let people walk all over you. Never apologize for doing what's best for you, speaking up for yourself, or saying no to what you don't want, and never explain your decisions. The time for tolerating disrespect and not being treated well is over. It is possible to be kind and loving and still not put up with people's bull**** . It's not only possible but necessary. By implementing practical strategies to establish and maintain boundaries, we can reclaim our power, cultivate healthier connections, and honor ourselves in the most authentic way possible. You Owe You!
